InfLove...

So here I am trying to distinguish the difference between Infatuation and Love.

Dictionary.com defines infatuation as a foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion.

Love on the otherhand had 22 definitions, one of which is: to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).

In both instances, passion exists. So what makes one foolish and unreasoning over the other?

To continue with their similarities, I think both infatuation and love can be temporary / short lived. Infatuation after a while can turn into obsession and love can also turn dry. In hindsight it's 20/20 but at that specific point in time however, it is not as clear.

Maybe the distinguishing difference is the satisfying benefit it brings to the person. If it is satisfying for selfish reasons, then it must be infatuation. It is selfish when you do things to others to satisfy your own uncertainties, lust etc. However, if actions are bestowed for the benefit of the other, then it is love.

Another distinguishing difference is the dimension in which the person is viewed. With infatuation it is satisfying to see the other person at its surface. Whereas with love, it is pleasing to know the person in depth.

I can see that everyone is born with a selfish nature therefore I'm not sure why infatuation carries such a negative connotation.

If every person is capable of infatuation and love, then...wouldn't you want to be inflove?